Men Can be Victims of Contraceptive Mentality Too

Men are also victims of the contraceptive mentality
‘It’s his entire fault that I’m pregnant!’
‘We thought the vasectomy was a hundred percent, that there was no chance that I would ever get pregnant’ sighed ‘Connie’. ‘Tut! Tut! Some guarantee against pregnancy the snip turned out to be!’ This past week, ‘Connie’s’ boyfriend ‘Gabriel’ went to the GP who told him that a vasectomy is not always one hundred percent... Connie put on the doctor’s nasally voice and sneered, ‘Vasectomy is approaching one hundred per cent, but even if your partner has been sterilised by vasectomy there is still the smallest chance of pregnancy.’
Connie is furious because she is much further along in her pregnancy than she thought. ‘Do you really think that I’d be thinking about having an abortion if his ****** sperm hadn’t got my egg?’
When we discussed the abortion complications and how women can feel very angry with their men folk afterwards, Connie almost yelled, ‘I want to kill him now! I know after the abortion, I’ll want to brain him completely! It’s his entire fault that I’m pregnant!’
I suggested to Connie that she sounded as if she wanted to punish Gabriel.
‘Yeah, but what’s so wrong with that? I’ve already been so cross with him...and...’ Connie put her fist inside her hand.
When I mentioned that often women want to break up with their boyfriends after an abortion, she clicked her tongue and said,
‘I’m not going to forget that he got me pregnant. I doubt we’ll be a couple in a few days. He doesn’t have to go through an abortion, and I can’t forgive him for putting me in this situation. I know the doctor said that the snip isn’t always foolproof, but it’s my boyfriend’s entire fault.’

Mary O'Regan

A Good Man

We often complain on this blog about the men who send, bring, drag, cajole, bully and beg their girlfriends into aborting.

So just for once I thought I would pay a few dues to the good men we see, not often enough, but occasionally.

So here's to Damian who "colluded" with me regularly to encourage his girlfriend to trust us and seek the help she needed, even after she had rebooked her abortion for the third time. They now have a beautiful 5 year old son.

And here's to Jim who tried every means to stop his wife of 2 years, who had been desperate to have a baby, from aborting their baby - within a week of finding out she was pregnant, because she went into a sudden unexpected depression. He offered her his total unconditional love and support - not the fake variety that would have walked her round the abortuary. We don't know the outcome.

But my all-time favourite is the gentle Australian builder, Joe, who went out to have a smoke after seeing what an abortion involved. "come back" said his girlfriend, "I know we disagree on abortion, but we have to discuss everything. I want you to understand why I feel abortion is right."

"Discuss?" he replied "Did you just watch that? If you don't see that that is wrong there is nothing to discuss." And he simply wept for her, and for her moral view of the world and for their baby." We continue to pray for Joe, his girlfriend and their baby.

Clare McCullough